“Did you ever think when you brought me home from Bulgaria that one day you would be driving me to college?”
This is the question my son asked me the other morning on our drive to campus. Hmmm…..It is a valid question. Fourteen years ago S came home from Bulgaria. At the time, we knew he had Cerebral Palsy. He has since added the labels ADD and Low Vision to his medical resume.
What were our expectations of the 4 year old who came into our lives? Was it college? I don’t know that college was the expectation; however, we did think of it as a possibility. It’s hard to gauge what any 4 year old is going to do in 14 years, especially one who speaks a different language than everyone else in the family.
We just knew that we wanted every possible opportunity made available to him, so he would be prepared for whatever path he desired - college, technical education, work, etc. In order for college to be a possibility, he needed to be pushed academically.
We have been blessed along his educational journey with mostly positive experiences and some negative experiences. All of them have provided us with learning opportunities. What works for S and what doesn’t work. What are his abilities? What are his strengths? What are his weaknesses?
Attending college was the option he picked. Not only is he attending, he is doing well. He has learned a lot about himself in the 4 weeks he has been attending class. We are seeing him take ownership of his learning (hallelujah!). He is self-advocating. He is meeting with his professors and creating personal relationships with them. He asks for help when he needs it.
The answer to his question would be, “We just wanted you to do what you wanted to be happy.”
The better question would probably have been, “Can you believe you are the parents of a college student?”
I will be on the couch with chocolate trying to figure out how my kids are getting older while I am not. Have a great weekend!