Tuesday, March 17, 2015

Sibling Relationships - Adoption Talk

I had to chuckle when I saw the topic for this week’s link up.  “Do your boys get along?” is one of the most frequently asked questions we receive.

I understand that people would ask about J’s reaction to S when S first joined our family, but…..it has been 14 years now.

Do my boys get along?
Yes and no.  They will pick at each other.  They will aggravate each other.  They will go out of their way to annoy each other.  They will stick up for each other.  They will support each other. They will encourage each other. It doesn't matter whether or not they were adopted.

They are brothers!

Area of Contention:
Although S is our oldest son, J was our first son.  J was adopted as an infant and has been with us since birth.  S was adopted at the age of 4, so J was 2 when he went from only child to younger brother.  When S tries to throw around his “I’m the oldest” card, J responds with “I was the first.”  

Words of Wisdom from J:
The following words of wisdom are from my interview with J about CP Awareness: A Brother's Perspective.
*S and I are brothers and act like brothers. We have fought and I have been jealous of the attention he has been given, but I love him.  His CP has taught me a lot, and I am thankful he is my brother.

*Love your sibling no matter what! Help when they need it but let them learn. You will learn with them. No matter how you feel, you will live with them and they are family. It will affect you, and you need to learn and grow from it. This will affect you and help you grow and become the person you are.  

I will be on the couch with chocolate listening to my boys….getting along or not.

Linking up with:
No Bohns About It


  1. "Love your sibling no matter what!"--yep- such good advice. Friends forever.

    1. I was impressed with his advice! Our kids will amaze us if we give them the opportunity.

  2. Very wise words from J, he must have very wise parents ;) Thanks for sharing!

    1. Thanks! My children have said some pretty amazing things about each other this month, but they won't say them to each other. Working on that :).